Thanking someone for their work is not inherently disingenuous. Thanking them for showing up as themselves is not pandering.
Expanding our appreciation of others to something beyond a new idea, referral or insight is to connect as humans. It is to see intrinsic value, and to call it out. It is a departure from the siloed existence that we've been told to live for so long. Even concepts such as work/life balance uphold this silo effect by telling us that we need to leave our personal lives at home, as if such a thing were possible.
Ending a conversation in person with, "thank you for doing what you do" is only weird if you aren't actually grateful for the work that individual does. I've had people thank me for my work as a therapist even though they are not my clients. Rather than virtue signaling, it comes across as a genuine appreciation for those who engage in therapeutic work.
Requiring a specific level of familiarity with one's worldview prior to appreciating them as a person is to gatekeep belonging. It is to perpetuate the idea that unless we align, you have no value to me. It is a frankly depressing way to live for many individuals.
I don't know you. I don't even remember why I got on your email list. But what I can tell you is that I value individuals doing what they can to live their values. I believe it fosters an environment of congruence, and a belief that the what each individual does to improve the world is worthwhile, even if it doesn't directly touch my life. I am grateful for each person that genuinely shows up, as it gives the people around them tacit permission to do the same.
I completely disagree with what you wrote, but it spurred me to thoughts that I may not have otherwise articulated, and for that, I'm grateful. Even if you don't believe me.
Hi Jeff, thanks for taking the time to comment. I appreciate the sincerity even though I don’t like hearing that I’m wrong. (I recognize that I invited this 😊)
Personally, I don’t see appreciation in a form of politeness as something that invites belonging. Anyway, I’m glad we can co-exist on this thread in our disagreement.
Absolutely dead wrong on this.
Thanking someone for their work is not inherently disingenuous. Thanking them for showing up as themselves is not pandering.
Expanding our appreciation of others to something beyond a new idea, referral or insight is to connect as humans. It is to see intrinsic value, and to call it out. It is a departure from the siloed existence that we've been told to live for so long. Even concepts such as work/life balance uphold this silo effect by telling us that we need to leave our personal lives at home, as if such a thing were possible.
Ending a conversation in person with, "thank you for doing what you do" is only weird if you aren't actually grateful for the work that individual does. I've had people thank me for my work as a therapist even though they are not my clients. Rather than virtue signaling, it comes across as a genuine appreciation for those who engage in therapeutic work.
Requiring a specific level of familiarity with one's worldview prior to appreciating them as a person is to gatekeep belonging. It is to perpetuate the idea that unless we align, you have no value to me. It is a frankly depressing way to live for many individuals.
I don't know you. I don't even remember why I got on your email list. But what I can tell you is that I value individuals doing what they can to live their values. I believe it fosters an environment of congruence, and a belief that the what each individual does to improve the world is worthwhile, even if it doesn't directly touch my life. I am grateful for each person that genuinely shows up, as it gives the people around them tacit permission to do the same.
I completely disagree with what you wrote, but it spurred me to thoughts that I may not have otherwise articulated, and for that, I'm grateful. Even if you don't believe me.
Hi Jeff, thanks for taking the time to comment. I appreciate the sincerity even though I don’t like hearing that I’m wrong. (I recognize that I invited this 😊)
Personally, I don’t see appreciation in a form of politeness as something that invites belonging. Anyway, I’m glad we can co-exist on this thread in our disagreement.